How to Know If You’re Ready for Therapy: Signs, Myths, and First Steps
A Clear, Compassionate Guide for First-Time Clients
If you’re thinking about starting therapy, but you’re not sure where to begin, I’m so glad you’re here.
I understand how confusing or unclear the concept of therapy can be, especially if it’s something you’ve never done before. It can be difficult to know where to start, what to expect, or whether therapy is even “for you.” A part of you might still be wondering “do I really need therapy?”
In this blog, I’d like to support you in understanding what therapy can help you with, and empower you to make the best decision for yourself in starting your therapeutic journey.
Signs You Might Be Ready for Therapy
The first thing that can tell you that you’re ready for therapy, is the fact that you’re wondering “am I ready for therapy?” Curiosity is often the earliest way your mind and body ask for support.
Other ways of recognizing that you might be ready for therapy include, but are not limited to:
Feeling overwhelmed often and unsure about how to manage your stress or emotions
Experiencing persistent anxiety or negative self-talk
Feeling uninspired, unmotivated, or as though you’re losing your spark
Experiencing ongoing, unresolved conflict with partners, friends, or family
Wanting to create change in your life (such as beginning dating, changing careers, moving, etc)
Struggling with work, school, sleep, or maintaining friendships
Feeling stuck, hopeless, or worried about your life trajectory
Trusted people in your circle suggesting you might benefit from extra support
What If I’m Not “Struggling Enough”?
This is a common misconception about therapy.
Many people believe that you can only start therapy when you are actively in crisis or if you have received a specific diagnosis.
The truth of the matter is, therapy can benefit anyone, as long as they are curious about it and open to learning about themselves.
If you are experiencing something that’s been weighing you down, whether it’s situational or chronic, big or small, you deserve to have support through that.
If you are curious about your inner world and you want to understand yourself more deeply to live a fulfilling life, you deserve support for that.
If you are looking for ways to manage stress or regulate your emotions, you deserve support for that.
If you want to be proactive about building your support network before entering a new chapter of life, you deserve this support too.
The therapy room does not discriminate. Everyone is worthy of care and compassion here.
How to Begin Therapy (Step-by-Step)
Reflect on your needs and logistics.
Consider what you’d like support with, your budget, and any practical factors such as location, virtual versus in-person sessions, and availability.
Search online directories for a therapist in Ontario.
Most directories, such as Psychology Today, allow you to filter by concerns, location, session format, and cost.
Narrow your options.
Use the criteria you identified to create a shortlist of therapists who feel aligned with your needs.
Book free consultation calls.
These calls allow you to share what’s bringing you to therapy, ask how a therapist might support you, and get a sense of whether you feel comfortable with them
Notice the connection.
Feeling safe and understood by your therapist is a major part of a successful therapeutic experience. If you’re torn between a few profiles, speaking with therapists directly can help clarify who you feel most at ease with.
Book your first session.
You’re welcome to ask your therapist if there’s anything you should prepare beforehand.
Most therapists will conduct an intake assessment in session one, meaning that will take the lead and provide some structure for you - but asking about what to expect can help alleviate any nerves you may have about starting this process.
Check in with yourself as you go.
Therapy is a collaborative process. Over time, you can assess whether it feels supportive and aligned with your needs. If something isn’t working, your therapist will welcome an open conversation about it.
Final Thoughts
Starting therapy can feel like a big step, and it’s also a meaningful act of self-care.
If you’d like to learn more about what therapy looks like with me, I invite you to reach out to book a free consultation. You can also visit my FAQ page for answers to common questions about the therapy process.
Wishing you care, clarity, and support on your therapeutic journey.
With warmth,
Alessia Manzoli
Registered Psychotherapist